Communication is the Key

Want to communicate better with your spouse? Follow these six steps. They will help you and your spouse improve the way you talk to each other.
Step 1. Accept responsibility.
Poor communication is a two-way street. Therefore, you can't blame all of your issues on your spouse. Are you sarcastic or overly sensitive? Is the depth of your subject matter in conversations limited to girly stuff? Take responsibility for your role in the breakdown of your communication, so you can improve.
Step 2. Manage your emotions.
The quickest way to communicate better with your spouse is to manage your emotions. Men often struggle with the way the fairer sex reacts to toward them. Give your husband a break by reigning in the usual tears, ranting and sulking you display. In return, he will feel more comfortable expressing himself to you because the after effects are less stressful.
Step 3. Set aside time to talk.
Ambushing your spouse when he's busy isn't smart. Make time to time to talk, but be wise. Ask him to go on a walk or for a private lunch. Don't mention what you really want to do right away. Your guy will think he's in trouble. Instead, after you have had a few laughs, open up and let your words flow. He'll likely reciprocate.
Step 4. Focus on your subject.
Communicate better with your spouse by staying on subject. If you're upset about an unpaid bill or your child's poor grades, don't gravitate to other topics. Stay on subject until you come to a resolution. This way, the focus of your conversation won't get muddled and distract from your spouse's attention.
Step 5. Use the 60-second rule.
A common complaint men have about women is that they talk too much. They have a challenge listening to a tirade of what happened on your job during lunch or how you really think your best friend is jealous. For this reason, when you want to communicate an important idea or request to your mate, use the 60-second rule. Get straight to the point and say what you want him to hear under a minute. He will be able to hear and digest your words much easier.
Step 6. Seek help from a professional.
If steps 1 through 5 aren't enough to help you communicate better with your spouse, see a professional or your Pastor. A good counselor can help you and your mate sort out your problems. Just be sure you both agree on who you receive assistance from. With you both on the same page, you are more likely to have a breakthrough.
Try these six steps and you will communicate more effectively with your husband. You will fill more of the dead silence with words and get across your feelings in a more acceptable way.